It is difficult for family members to find out that a loved one has fallen to addiction. This pain is magnified further when they fail to acknowledge the root of the problem and dismiss it as “just a phase.” By failing to admit that a loved one needs professional help, you run the greater risk of seeing him or her hit rock bottom. The refusal to see the problem as it is could even be fatal.
Acceptance is the first and most critical part of the recovery process, cites Dr Maher Soudah, director of Kaiser Wellness Center. This goes for both the addict and the people around him or her. Denial is the easiest response when somebody is faced with a fact that is uncomfortable to accept, even with overwhelming evidence. However, it is this easy way out that can cause more damage.
Recovery Needs Total Honesty
People who are not totally honest about their addiction or its existence will not do well in recovery. Each lie told opens the door even more to relapse. A common mistake people make early during the recovery phase is thinking that honesty entails pointing out what’s wrong with other people. But rehabilitation is not about fixing others; it’s about fixing you.
Admittedly, honesty will not come naturally at first. You’ve probably spent so much time mastering how to lie that being truthful will feel weird and unnatural. It will require practice and constantly correcting yourself whenever a story comes out of your mouth. “It will be harder before it becomes easier. However, it will eventually be easy. So, hang in there and keep going,” says Dr Soudah.
Seeing Addiction As A Chance To Change Your Life
All change is difficult; even the good types. This is why the recovery process requires welcoming a 180-degree turn. However, as challenging as it is, the result is doubly rewarding. Most people tend to sleepwalk through every day and don’t really think about what makes them truly happy. Dr Maher Soudah states that by using the addiction as a chance to fix things, you can look back at everything and leave them all behind. You don’t even have to feel sorry or guilty for moving forward.
Acceptance Doesn’t Mean Quitting
Admitting that you have a problem and that you need help is not quitting on your ability to fix things on your own, emphasis Dr Maher Soudah. Addiction is both a behavioral and physical state that requires professional intervention. This means getting the right types of therapy, undergoing a safe and monitored detoxification process, and having the right kinds of medication. It also means obtaining assistance from people who have trained and studied all their lives to help people in your situation.
The road to full recovery is a long, winding, and hard process. But it is this process that, with your cooperation, will lead to proven success. Even if where you are now is not where you want to be, the fact that you have accepted your state of powerlessness brings you a thousand steps closer to positively changing your life.